Friday, September 30, 2011

Single For The Moment.


When we are in a relationship, we tend to let go of our values, what we really wanted out of it in the first place and we learn that everything is not about you. We lose our selves because we want to make the other person happy.
You never know how much of yourself is lost until you're out of the relationship and forced (sometimes) to be single for whatever period of time. You suddenly realize how hard and unbearable it is to be single when all you see are happy couples.
I'll be happy to tell you that Me, Myself and I have been in the longest relationship. The duration of this relationship has brought a lot of good things to the fore and I have managed to learn a few things.
I have managed to be there for my friends. Through the good, bad and ugly. I don't know why some girls let go of their friendships all because of a man. Friends other than family are the one thing that remains constant, especially good friends. They will always be there to see you through bad boyfriends, dates etc.
I learnt that if a guy really likes you and is interested in you, he'll do whatever it takes to have and be with you. I have a lot of friends who make excuses for the guys they happen to be interested in. we've all heard, 'he is busy,' 'works a lot,' excuses but truly, he just doesn't care as much as you do. Relationships are a two way street, you should receive just as much as what you've put in.
Being single gives you a chance to re-evaluate and honestly think about what it is you want out of your next relationship. Something that would be of mutual benefit and not just for one party's satisfaction. There is a time when you think you're on the same page with the person you're dating only for something to happen and make you realize that; not only aren't you on the same page, you're not even on the same chapter!
You re-gain your inner confidence. Most of us ladies go through stressful relationships in that by the time you're out of it, you're unsure of what to do next and feel inferior because the guy took away yourself confidence. Its through being single that you get a chance to regain your self confidence and build on it.
You get to find out who you truly are and what it is you want. Until you really know who you are and are honest to yourself, you'll never know what it is you want. And before you find yourself, you'll never be happy nor be able to make the other person happy.
So… go ahead and be single. Don't let yourself be the kind of guy or girl who goes from one relationship to the next. Give yourself time to discover who you really are and what you want out of a relationship before you embark on another one.

2 comments:

  1. wouldn't have said this better.
    i'm currently enjoying being single. :) people should stop thinking that being single only means miserable days, loneliness, low confidence etc. you get the chance to know yourself more. and on top of that, you can flirt with whomever and whenever!

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  2. It depends on how people look at singledom. For some its miserable days and loneliness whilst for the rest of us its a chance to "flirt with whomever and whenever">>>>love that.

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