Monday, June 20, 2011

What Oprah had to say about Men.


I got this from one of the pages I was browsing. It was so insightful that I decided to keep it and share it. So, here is; the Queen of Talk's thoughts on men and advice to ladies.

Oprah Winfrey
  
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he does not want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from the heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that is not meant to be. Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve, then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend would not mistreat a friend. Don't settle.
If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better". You will be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who have got a bunch of children from a bunch of different women… he didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You can't change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are. Even if he is more educated or is in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi god. He is just a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he will cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you allow him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one to do all the bending…Compromise is a two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships. There is nothing cute about baggage. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to complete you. A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals. Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.
Dating is fun…even if he does not turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes… when a man knows where you are, and you're always readily available to him, he takes it for granted.
Never move into his mother's house… Never cosign for a man.
Don't fully commit to a man who does not give you everything you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful. You should know that, you're the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he'll miss out on a good thing.
If he was attracted to you in the first place, just know he is not the only one. They are all watching you, so you have a lot of choices, make the right one.
Ladies, take care of your hearts… Life is short, so forgive quickly, believe slowly, love truly, and laugh uncontrollably.
Never regret anything that makes you happy. Have a wonderful journey of life.
Women, choose what to learn.
Men- we are watching you.

 


 


 


 

  

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