When we are in a relationship, we tend to
let go of our values, what we really wanted out of it in the first place and we
learn that everything is not about you. We lose our selves because we want to
make the other person happy.
You never know how much of yourself is
lost until you're out of the relationship and forced (sometimes) to be single
for whatever period of time. You suddenly realize how hard and unbearable it is
to be single when all you see are happy couples.
I'll be happy to tell you that Me, Myself
and I have been in the longest relationship. The duration of this relationship
has brought a lot of good things to the fore and I have managed to learn a few
things.
I have managed to be there for my
friends. Through the good, bad and ugly. I don't know why some girls let go of
their friendships all because of a man. Friends other than family are the one
thing that remains constant, especially good friends. They will always be there
to see you through bad boyfriends, dates etc.
I learnt that if a guy really likes you
and is interested in you, he'll do whatever it takes to have and be with you. I
have a lot of friends who make excuses for the guys they happen to be
interested in. we've all heard, 'he is busy,' 'works a lot,' excuses but truly,
he just doesn't care as much as you do. Relationships are a two way street, you
should receive just as much as what you've put in.
Being single gives you a chance to
re-evaluate and honestly think about what it is you want out of your next
relationship. Something that would be of mutual benefit and not just for one
party's satisfaction. There is a time when you think you're on the same page
with the person you're dating only for something to happen and make you realize
that; not only aren't you on the same page, you're not even on the same
chapter!
You re-gain your inner confidence. Most
of us ladies go through stressful relationships in that by the time you're out
of it, you're unsure of what to do next and feel inferior because the guy took
away yourself confidence. Its through being single that you get a chance to
regain your self confidence and build on it.
You get to find out who you truly are and
what it is you want. Until you really know who you are and are honest to
yourself, you'll never know what it is you want. And before you find yourself,
you'll never be happy nor be able to make the other person happy.
So… go ahead and be single. Don't let
yourself be the kind of guy or girl who goes from one relationship to the next.
Give yourself time to discover who you really are and what you want out of a
relationship before you embark on another one.
wouldn't have said this better.
ReplyDeletei'm currently enjoying being single. :) people should stop thinking that being single only means miserable days, loneliness, low confidence etc. you get the chance to know yourself more. and on top of that, you can flirt with whomever and whenever!
It depends on how people look at singledom. For some its miserable days and loneliness whilst for the rest of us its a chance to "flirt with whomever and whenever">>>>love that.
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